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Have you ever met someone who could say one thing and mean something else? On the surface that seems to be a really valuable skill but in the long run it will backfire on you every time.
Here is an example of changing the meaning of a sentence. Speak the sentence out loud emphasizing a different word each time.
"I did not say she did it."
Emphasizing each word changes the meaning of the sentence. In order to be a great communicator
Say what you mean.
When you say something, choose your words carefully and measure the response of your audience. It is the speakers responsibility to transfer the message to the audience, whether that is an audience of one or a few. You as the speaker are responsible for your words and their impact. It is irresponsible to talk about thing you know nothing about.
Shut up, if you don't have anything to say.
It is better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Great communicators are most often great listeners. They will listen to the others in the conversation (like a date) and then ask follow up questions about the topic. It is the high calling of a gentleman to know when to keep his thoughts to himself.
Be interested in the other person(s).
When speaking to a large audience, more than 3, remember that you are speaking to each one individually. You are having a personal conversation with each person in the audience. Look into their eyes and see if they are hearing what you want them to hear. If they are confused simplify the statement. If they are bored, liven it up. If they are not interested, stop and ask them what they want.
Tell the Truth, gently
No one trusts a BS artist. You may think that you've got it over on us, but you are wrong. Tell the truth even when it may not be the most palatable thing to say. You will build integrity and character that will out last anything else. Telling the truth is hard and very few do it. If you must point out something wrong that will upset your listener, do it gently. There is no reason to be a harsh jerk when pointing out others faults. Try to remember a time when someone pointed out one of your flaws and use that same demeanor to help your listeners.
Being a lying two faced jerk serves no one. Being an honest, trustworthy listener will gain you more value than gold.
